Last week, as part of my intuitive coaching program, I was asked to sit with my fears—to truly acknowledge them, observe them, and understand their role in my life. Fear is something we often try to push away, seeing it as a sign of weakness or failure. But in doing this exercise, I realized just how much fear has been a part of my healing this past year and still is.
I have been afraid of so many things:
Leaving my marriage.
Hurting my kids by making that choice.
Embracing my true self.
Making huge, life-altering changes.
Being honest about what I truly want.
Even now, fear lingers and is paralyzing at times. I’m scared of what’s happening in our country, how it affects marginalized groups—of which I am now a part. (That’s still something I’m adjusting to.) But the biggest shift for me?
I’m no longer afraid of fear itself.
Seeing Fear as a Guide, Not an Enemy
For so long, I believed fear was something to conquer or eliminate. But what if fear isn’t the enemy? What if fear is simply information? What if that information gives us the best path forward?
Fear has served an important role in my life. It has warned me when something felt wrong, when I was living out of alignment, and when I was silencing my own truth. In the past, I ignored those warning signs out of fear—fear of confrontation, fear of rejection, fear of making the wrong choice.
But last week, I had two moments where I chose to lean into my fear instead of running from it. My intuition was flashing warning signs about two big things, and I felt that old resistance creeping in: “Don’t say anything. Don’t rock the boat. You don’t want to upset anyone.”
Still, I spoke my truth.
It was terrifying. I could feel my heart pounding, my voice shaking. But I did it. And guess what? My worst fears didn’t come true. In fact, something incredible happened—after facing the fear, I felt free. Unstuck.
This was a revelation: Fear doesn’t have to control me.
The Energy of Blue: Truth and Courage
In my this program, we’ve been working with colors - this week was the energy of blue—the color of truth, wisdom, and clarity. Blue invites us to see situations honestly, cut through emotional overwhelm, and find the courage to make the right choices.
One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned is that fear isn’t something to be banished. It’s something to be acknowledged and observed. When we stop running from it, we can separate real, grounded fear from fear based on old stories or limiting beliefs.
A simple practice I learned:
List the fear – Write it down. Say it out loud. Name it.
Ask: Is this real or imagined? – What is the worst that could happen? What is the best possible outcome?
Reframe it with truth – Instead of “I’ll fail,” shift to “I am learning and growing.”
Take a small, courageous step – Action diminishes fear. Even the smallest step forward brings clarity.
(Dougall Fraser)
When I did this with the two situations last week, I realized that fear was simply trying to protect me. But I didn’t need protection—I needed truth.
Living in Clarity, Not Fear
I used to think that if I felt fear, it meant I wasn’t ready. Now, I see that fear is often a sign that I’m on the edge of something transformative.
I no longer fear sadness, uncertainty, or discomfort. In allowing myself to feel fully, I’ve gained more clarity than I ever thought possible. I’m finally showing up as the person I was always meant to be.
Right now, many of us—across political beliefs, backgrounds, and experiences—are living with fear. Our country feels deeply divided, and that division is unsettling. Fear is creeping into our conversations, our relationships, and our communities. Some fear the loss of rights. Others fear the loss of values. Many of us fear that we’re losing the ability to truly hear one another. And when fear drives us apart, it becomes even harder to find a way forward together.
So today, for whatever reason, if fear is knocking at your door, don’t slam it shut. Open it. Look it in the eyes. Ask what it’s trying to teach you. Because on the other side of fear is truth. And on the other side of truth is freedom.
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