I've noticed something: when someone is sad, people instinctively try to make them feel better. It’s a natural reaction—our loved ones don’t want to see us hurting. But what if sadness isn’t actually something to be “fixed”? What if, instead, it’s something we need to embrace?
One of my favorite movies, Inside Out, beautifully captures this idea. While Joy gets most of the attention, my favorite character has always been Sadness. Even as a kid, I felt that sadness was a necessary emotion. But as I got older, I realized that society often doesn’t know how to handle it—especially when it involves tears. Well-meaning friends and family rush in with, “Don’t cry! It’ll be okay.” Or, “Let’s cheer you up.” Their intentions are good, but this approach can make it feel like sadness is something we should suppress.
But I see sadness differently.
Sitting with Sadness
Just this morning, I was looking at old pictures of Todd, the boys, and me. It stirred up so many emotions. We had incredible times together—memories I will always cherish. And as I looked at those pictures, sadness washed over me. Not because I regret those moments, but because they mattered. Because they were beautiful. Because they’re part of me.
Instead of pushing the sadness away, I chose to sit with it. To let it move through me. And that’s something I’ve learned to do over time—not just for myself, but in my household, too. It’s easier for some of us than others, but allowing space for sadness has led to so much personal growth and healing.
The Power of Feeling It All
Sadness isn’t a sign of weakness; it’s a sign that we care deeply. It reminds us of what matters. It helps us process change, loss, and growth. Without it, we wouldn’t be able to truly appreciate joy.
Our culture often glorifies happiness as the ultimate goal, but real life is richer than that. There’s beauty in the full range of emotions. When we let ourselves fully feel sadness, it can actually bring us closer to healing, understanding, and even gratitude.
So the next time sadness visits, instead of rushing to escape it, try welcoming it. Let it sit beside you for a while. There’s wisdom in its presence.
Sadness isn’t the opposite of joy—it’s a part of it.
(My step-daughter, gave me that cute Sadness doll - I love it!)
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